Is “human decency” the punchline?

Tumblr has been going all social justice the past week, thanks to Senator Wendy Davis’ filibuster on blocking the Texan bill that would severely restrict access to abortion and abortion clinics. Luckily, and I heavily emphasize the word luckily, common sense and the slightest bit of respect for women won out, and the bill was struck down.

Way to go, Wendy! :)

Moreover, on social media sites such as Facebook and Twitter, rape jokes have come up again as a heated topic of discussion. You get the usual bigots who say that rape jokes are just jokes, and if you can’t handle it, don’t pay the money to see the show. Then you also get the folk who do have human decency and say that, hey, rape jokes aren’t funny.

In a society that’s supposed to be post-Enlightenment, we really are anything but. When the statistic came up saying that 40% of households have women earning more money than men, the country goes berserk, saying how these crazy feminists are taking over the world, etc. Excuse me, read it again. 40% of households have women earning more than men.

That means that 60% of households still have men who are the main breadwinner.

When I read this, I was shocked. I wasn’t shocked because, ooh, women are going to be ruling Wall Street. I was shocked that this was classified as news or a new finding.

What the heck?! All this says is that “men are the main breadwinner in most homes”. How is that news in any way?

Or is it news because, oh no, women are actually getting closer and closer to having equal financial power in the home? If that’s the kicker, then surely we must be in the Dark Ages.

I’m even more shocked at this CNN article titled “When rape jokes aren’t funny“, which talks about the poor and tactless performance of Daniel Tosh. With that title, it’s as if rape jokes were funny in the first place. Which they weren’t, aren’t, and will never be. Either the CNN writer deliberately did this, or that rape culture is so ingrained in our society that it has gone unnoticed.

But CNN is a giant news network! It must have star reporters or excellent writers to have seen the errors. Surely this tasteless mistake should not have slipped, but it did. With the prestige of the network in mind, I almost think that it’s a tongue-in-cheek.

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What’s the difference between a baby and a watermelon?

The following is a screencap from this Facebook thread, which you should all click “report” on because it is disgusting how some people can see this as a joke.

The punch line is in the picture as well. (Trigger warning: there is mention of gore and sex.)



I purposely didn’t colour-block the first names because anyone who goes to York University must see this, especially the administrators.

Is this the type of student you want at your school?

Moreover, to the York University students:

Is this the type of person you want to be working with?

What scared me the most, and continues to scare me as I look back on this post, is how nobody intercepted. Nobody thought it was wrong to joke about dead babies or rape. Everyone in this thread went along with it and thought they were having a great time.

There was absolutely no reason (nor will there ever be one) to have jokes about dead babies and violent gore. What purpose does it serve? Does it advance you to your goal? Death is no laughing matter. There are cases where studies have shown that “nervous laughter” is used to relieve tension, and that is the only reason I can think of here, but does it really seem like laughing because they are scared of death, or does it seem to show their ignorance and lack of empathy?

Ask any parents or any person about a deceased sibling, relative, or friend. Is death such a funny matter then? Would it be funny to any of these people in the thread, Yahya I., Husman S. H., Sam P. G., or Shafay A. if their own child were to die in front of them, to breathe their last breath?

And then of course, the sex joke from Shafay A.:

Q: What’s 6 inches long, 2 inches wide, and drives women wild?

A: A $100 bill!

Not only is that supposed to imply sex, it also dehumanizes women into sex objects with no personality who hunger after money.

What sickens me the most is the difficulty to file a complaint to York. This guy clearly violates the following responsibilities under the Student Code of Rights and Responsibilities:

(ii) The responsibility to behave in a way that does not harm or threaten to harm
another person’s physical or mental wellbeing.
(iii) The responsibility to uphold an atmosphere of civility, honesty, equity and
respect for others, thereby valuing the inherent diversity in our community.

This Facebook thread is not the only instance where Yahya I. has violated these responsibilities. In another thread, my friend, N, had unfollowed the thread but he tagged her back in:

Y: hey, N

N: can i help you?

Y: rape

That is literally what happened. Then he said that it was only a joke and we should loosen up.

Rape is never funny. 

I really hope that York rethinks their process for accepting students. Yahya I. is the scum of the earth.

Homance: romance for hos?

And yes, “hos” is the correct spelling of the plural form of “ho”, because “hoes” would mean you have more than one of these:



And that will probably be the only grammar tip from me today, so you can stop covering your ears now.

Homance” is the word of the day on Sunday, June 2, 2013.

I completely doubt the seriousness of this word, because it so obviously doesn’t carry the same significance nor reputation as “bromance”.

When you call someone a “bro”, that means they’ve earned your trust. They’re your buddy. They’re in your inner circle.

Even when a girl called someone “her bro”, it means that the guy is her friend.

But no matter which sex the speaker is when they call someone else a “ho”, it’s a definite insult. From Urban Dictionary (definitions #2 and beyond), the definitions are extremely cruel and dehumanizing:

2. Prostitute, Whore, Hooker, Tramp, Slut

4. A skanky wench willing to “get down.”; slut.

5. like the local bike, everyone has had a ride! (referring to sex)

6. ho is a shorter term for the word whore ; but ho tends to be used more often then the word whore.

and even misogynist:

7. woman

Bro” has better definitions, but there are some cruel versions as well:

1. Obnoxious partying males who are often seen at college parties.

2. Friend; commonly used in greetings.

3. a usually white young male, found commonly in places like san bernardino county in california, as well as orange county.

4. A version of a bra specifically designed for men. (????? okayyy)

5. close friends; buds; pals; comradarie

As you can see, there’s a big difference in the terms.

So really, is “homance” the best term we got for women, or is “bromance” seen as the default, positive light and “homance” is merely a linguistic deviant of the word because the male term is the default prototype?

I’d never use “homance” to describe my circle of friends. Not only is it completely low-class, it is dehumanizing to women everywhere. I would never resort to self-degradation.

I’ve never heard anyone being referred to as having a “homance” with their girlfriends, but if I ever hear a female using it, I hope I never have to interact with her or her friends.